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title: "Lesson 4.3"
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# Lesson 4.3

A study of **erotic desire in the shibari session**, of the schemas the brain uses to interpret it, and of how context and intention make it possible to manage it.

 Estimated reading time: 36 minutes.


## 4.3.4 Knowing, accepting, and satisfying yourself

![4.3.4 Knowing, accepting, and satisfying yourself](https://shibari-dojo.online/images/course/t434en_sq.webp)

We study intention—what moves us to act and what we seek in doing so—and why knowing and accepting it is the only way to satisfy ourselves on the erotic level.

 Estimated reading time: 11 minutes.


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## 4.3.3 Desire in the erotic context

![4.3.3 Desire in the erotic context](https://shibari-dojo.online/images/course/t433en_sq.webp)

We study how the schemas our brain generates, when brought into the erotic shibari session, become a mechanism for managing desire.

 Estimated reading time: 10 minutes.


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## 4.3.2 The mental schema of desire

![4.3.2 The mental schema of desire](https://shibari-dojo.online/images/course/t432en_sq.webp)

Hidden desire cannot be reached directly or quickly, and in an erotic interaction we would not want it to be. The system *sekibaku* (責縛) uses to manage the emotions of an erotic shibari session lets us go as far as we want, together, toward a shared experience.

 Estimated reading time: 7 minutes.


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## 4.3.1 Managing erotic desire

![4.3.1 Managing erotic desire](https://shibari-dojo.online/images/course/t431en_sq.webp)

There is no foolproof method that guarantees the full satisfaction of erotic desire, but shibari is a valuable tool for exploring it from a different perspective.

 Estimated reading time: 10 minutes.


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