3.1 Managing emotions in shibari: desire, the body, and emotional safety

Emotions are predictive schemas with which the brain interprets the environment and our internal states, and erotic desire is one of them. That is why the same shibari practice is experienced differently depending on the person and the context.

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By emotional reaction we mean the set of emotional moments that we interpret as part of the same experience. Knowing how it evolves gives us tools to manage it at each moment of the session.

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We focus the management of desire on behaviors and, consequently, on the body, which thus becomes the tool for acting on the situation the brain is trying to explain.

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The richer our erotic map is and the better we know it, the more possibilities we will have to experiment and create new experiences in our interactions.

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Just as we protect our physical integrity, developing strategies to protect our emotional “health” is necessary in order to enjoy satisfying experiences.

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The turn of the rope tells the body which way it is going to move. Choosing its direction according to each person and each movement, while respecting their natural asymmetry, allows us to build more efficient ties.

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